Have you ever heard the phrase “You will find love when you least expect it”? And then thought to yourself, that just isn’t true?
Well… love can be found in the most unlikely places. Today, we’ll be talking about some unusual ways to meet someone and sharing a few tips on developing the right mindset to make your moment happen.
Understand the Value of Serendipity
Did you ever experience something amazing happening when you least expected it? You were having the worst day, and you were feeling beyond stressed… and then you found out you just got a promotion or someone asked you out. Well, that’s serendipity.
Essentially, serendipity is when something good happens when you weren’t expecting it. Some people call it faith. Some think it’s a chance. But serendipity can strike us anytime when we aren’t looking for it. It’s that little magic that can turn a sour day sweet.
You can embrace it by staying open to new experiences, even when things aren’t going perfectly. It’s harder for luck to find you when you are doing the same thing every single day.
Get out of your comfort zone and talk to people you usually wouldn’t. Spend time doing things you enjoy, like going to your favorite bookstore or going to that concert you always wanted to go to. Just being in that energy will make you more receptive to serendipity.
Pursue Your Hobbies
You know that thing that you’ve been wanting to do for the longest time but never got the chance to? Well, we think you should go for it.
Doing something you love makes you more relaxed and helps you radiate happiness. It can help you develop a good mindset while having fun. If you’re not sure about what you want to try out, here are a few ideas:
- painting class
- hiking
- cooking class
- pottery class
- calligraphy class
- acting class
- martial arts
- wine tasting events
- meditation classes
- dancing class
It’s all about reconnecting with yourself, having a good time, and doing something you’ll actually enjoy. When you’re in that space, your walls go down, and you become more natura. People are drawn to that kind of energy. Plus, even if you don’t meet that special someone, you’re still making some good memories and might find a couple of new friends.
Change Up Your Environment
We are wired to love comfort. And nothing is more comforting than sticking to your routine. But the downside to this approach is that if you do the same thing every day, you’ll get the same results that you’ve always gotten. If you want different results, you need to change some of your habits.
These changes don’t have to be that big. You can take your laptop to a different cafe, buy your groceries at a farmers’ market instead of a supermarket, or sit on a different seat the next time you’re on the bus.
A new environment opens you up to meeting new people. It’s as simple as that. One small detour could shift your whole timeline and literally change your life.
Take a Trip
There’s nothing that can help you de-stress and recharge your batteries like a good trip. You don’t have to go overseas or across the country in order to have a nice time.
You can explore a little town near you or take a solo trip to a nice nature spot. You can even visit some museums, art galleries, cultural monuments, and so on.
Traveling really brings out our spontaneous side, and it can be a great way to meet people.
Practice Your Small Talk Skills
If you’re ready to try some of these ideas, you’re bound to meet someone. But what do you do when you actually come across someone you like?
The good news is that social skills are something you can learn. Even if you’re a bit shy, you can practice your skills so that when you talk to someone new, it feels more natural to chat with them. People often want to connect as much as we do, so when someone makes the first move and starts a conversation, we’re all happy to jump in.
You can start small and work your way up. For example, you can talk about the weather with the barista you see all the time. You can compliment people who you aren’t that close with. And, when you take that class, you can ask someone about their experience there. For example:
- “What made you want to take this class?”
- “How did you hear about this place?”
- “Is it just me, or is this harder than it looks?”
Also, pay attention to what people who are naturally good at socializing do. How long do they keep eye contact? How do they start conversations? You might be surprised by how much you can learn by just observing them in action.
Small things like that can help you develop better social skills. And this is such a great skill to have that it’s worth continuing to work on it even after you meet someone.
Spend Time Engaging With People Online
One of the many benefits we have in the 21st century is that we can connect with anyone online.
Classifieds websites are definitely one of the unexpected places to find your next love interest. Imagine looking through the used books section and sparking a debate with the person selling a book you’re interested in about the main character. What an amazing meet-cute! That would be such a fun ‘how we met’ story to tell your friends over dinner.
For example, the Locanto app even has a section dedicated to helping singles find love in their area. Your love story might be waiting just around the corner.
Volunteer for Something You Care About
Do you have a special love for animals, children, or the environment? Why not volunteer at the shelter or orphanage in your town? It could be a great way to come across someone that shares your values, while doing something meaningful.
When you’re doing something selfless, it can really open your heart up. That energy can attract people who are also grounded in kindness and want to add more purpose to their lives.
Organizations like this also often host events or workshops you can take part in. This can be another great way to meet new people and connect with others.
Say Yes More Often
Saying yes (more often than not) will lead to exploring new places and meeting new people. Just say yes to the picnic with your friend that you don’t feel like going to, the birthday party where you won’t know anyone, that game night, or that event that may not be your cup of tea.
Every single time you do that, you open yourself up to new connections. Plus, it’s a great way to make life interesting.
Work on Creating a Life You’ll Love
The best way to find love in unexpected places is to work on creating a life you’re excited about. Explore your passions, find new hobbies, join classes, and work on your social skills.
All of this can help you become happier and attract someone into your life. And, remember, you don’t have to be perfect in order to find love. You just have to show up as you are. It’s okay if you’re nervous, but don’t try to find excuses. Just putting yourself out there more can help you create a better experience for yourself.
Are You Ready to Find Love?
So, those were our tips for finding love when you least expect it. Just focus on having a good time and enriching your life. Your soulmate is somewhere out there waiting for you.
Just make sure they have the opportunity to meet you and be ready for them when they come.